I couldn’t put this any better than Chescaleigh has. I am grateful for women like her speaking up. If I had heard someone like her speaking up about this when I was younger, it would have given me the courage to go to the police after I was raped. Standing ovation! Apple of my eye!
If I had the ability to propose child support legislation This is what I would suggest:
I would make child support into a reinbusrment program. Often men complain that mothers, who are most often the custodial parent, do not have to prove the money is spent on the child.
My suggestion would change that. I would have the mother turn in reciepts to child support enforcement and the non-custodial parent would recieve copies and be billed for 50 percent of it. This would not include cost for gifts, trips to Disneyland, birthday parties or things like that. The custodial parent would have a 3 month time frame in which to turn in reciepts.
Under child support as it is now, the custodial parent ends up spending more than the non-custodial parent.This would even it out, also it would end extreme cases where the non-custodial parent is quite wealthy and pays really high child support that the custodial parent can basically live off of to the extent that they are not spending on their child basically.
I don’t think that’s right either. I would include an amount for housing expenses however. That would not be 50% of actual housing expenses. Let me explain. Let’s say a mother has 1 child. A single person could confortably live in a studio or 1 bedroom. NOt so much with 2 people. So for housing, as far as child support is concerned, I would have the father pay 50% of the difference between the cost of a 1 bedroom and a 2.
Where I live that would amount to no more than $100, depending on the neighborhood. For utilities I would bill the non-custodial parent for 10%. The question would realisticly rise of, what if the non-custodial parent can’t pay? If the father guineully cannot pay, he would need to speak with child support enforcent and a payment plan would be made.
Some states charge interest on unpaid child support. That would be not be a part of my plan. By the way, non-custodial parents that cannot pay their child support can go to child support enforcement and have the amount of their payment changed today. I know several fathers that have done this.
I would give the non-custodial parent a three month time frame to either pay or show they cannot before summoning them to court for non-payment. If at that time they do not start making payments and they are shown to have the ability to they should spend time in county lock up according to what the judge deems correct.
I wonder why non of our congressmen have a more balanced approch to child support.
This video gets the Stinkeye.
How can I sum up this video? Lets see.
Feminism makes women divorce their husbands— check
There was some good old age where no women worked outside the home—check
Why would women want to leave the wonderful super easy task of just cuddling the kiddos all day and become a WAGE SLAVE—check
Excuse me while I vomit….
Okay, I’m back. Of the older women in my family exactly zero have been a housewife. Could assholes like this at least try to frame their argument in a way that does not erase working class people? Nah, that would take too much logic.
Back in the bad old days sometimes even the children had to work. Also, I’m real sick of the idea that women simply divorce because they can or on a whim. There are many different reasons someone files for divorce.
There are many issues with wife as occupation. First and foremost in my mind is the issue of pay. The typical response to that is her pay is room, board and clothing. The reason I hated when I stayed at home was not having my own money to spend as I pleased.
Having to ask for money like a child and explain why I wanted it was very degrading. The inability to buy so much as a damn fifty cent pack of gum without someone eles’s say so is about as degraded to a child as an adult can get. That was enough for me to never want to be a stay at home mom again. With another employer, I work, recived my pay and spent it as I pleased. I got time away from my job, I recieved set hours and breaks.
Staying at home, if my spouse did not want to keep the kids to allow me to pursue some other leisure activity I wanted; I did not get a break. Which in my case was very rarely. I couldn’t do so much as shower without a child banging on the door, yelling, “Mommy,mommy, mommy, mommy,mommy!” That sucks.
Meanwhile, did he just come straight home every day from work. Nope. If he wanted to visit a friend, play basketball, go have a beer, he did those things. I love my children, dearly. Time with kids can have good and bad sides.
Kids can laugh with you, give hugs and kisses and are awesome. They can also poop everywhere, pee everywhere, vomit on you, have tantrums, hit you, bite you(try having your nipple almost ripped off trying to breastfeed a baby.) and make for a very bad day.
Parents need a break from that to rejuvenate. Stay at home mothers often don’t get those needed breaks. Telling them they get a break when the kids are asleep is not sufficient. That is cruel.
My other big problem with the wife as occupation model is what I call the Eternal Gratefulness doctrine. This is the belief that a housewife should be soooo grateful that her husband pays the bills, everything she does is to show her gratefulness.
This leads to husbands taking their wives for granted because she already has a debt to pay for him paying the bills. What is just doing her job. If you’re just doing your job, thanks or reciprocal appreciation is required. Paying the bill is the wife’s appreciation shown.
Wage slave, indeed.
Shut the front door! I am so utterly stunned right now. I was nominated for the Liebster Award. Apparently this award is for new bloggers with less than 200 followers. Yeah, that about sums me up. First of all I'd like to thank Debb at http://sunshinefactor.wordpress.com for this extremely unexpected honor. I hope I get this right because I'm still unsure of what I'm doing, but here goes nothing.
It seriously depresses me as a woman when I hear conservative talking points. The number 1 point on the agenda is “The Family”. I have no problem with encouraging happy families. The problem comes in with what they would like to do about it and limiting the options of people that do not want what fits into their traditional family mold. That and it seems to always have to do with punishing women that don’t do what they want. Their solution to the number of out of wedlock births is to make it harder for women who already have children. Otherwise they would be for making contraception affordable. They would rather have women and children suffering in poverty to scare other women into towing the line. They never want to scare men though. An equally horrible position would be to force men to live in poverty or marry the mother of their children. No support for that. Even though child support enforcement lowers out of wedlock birth rates. Nope, have to punish those evil sluts or risk civilization.
I just love this song by Missy Elliot! Apple of my eye!
APPLE, APPLE APPLE OF MY EYE HILARIOUS!