I couldn’t put this any better than Chescaleigh has. I am grateful for women like her speaking up. If I had heard someone like her speaking up about this when I was younger, it would have given me the courage to go to the police after I was raped. Standing ovation! Apple of my eye!
Child Support, If I Ran It
Mommy, why U hav all dis money and I have no clothes?
If I had the ability to propose child support legislation This is what I would suggest:
I would make child support into a reinbusrment program. Often men complain that mothers, who are most often the custodial parent, do not have to prove the money is spent on the child.
My suggestion would change that. I would have the mother turn in reciepts to child support enforcement and the non-custodial parent would recieve copies and be billed for 50 percent of it. This would not include cost for gifts, trips to Disneyland, birthday parties or things like that. The custodial parent would have a 3 month time frame in which to turn in reciepts.
Under child support as it is now, the custodial parent ends up spending more than the non-custodial parent.This would even it out, also it would end extreme cases where the non-custodial parent is quite wealthy and pays really high child support that the custodial parent can basically live off of to the extent that they are not spending on their child basically.
I don’t think that’s right either. I would include an amount for housing expenses however. That would not be 50% of actual housing expenses. Let me explain. Let’s say a mother has 1 child. A single person could confortably live in a studio or 1 bedroom. NOt so much with 2 people. So for housing, as far as child support is concerned, I would have the father pay 50% of the difference between the cost of a 1 bedroom and a 2.
Where I live that would amount to no more than $100, depending on the neighborhood. For utilities I would bill the non-custodial parent for 10%. The question would realisticly rise of, what if the non-custodial parent can’t pay? If the father guineully cannot pay, he would need to speak with child support enforcent and a payment plan would be made.
Some states charge interest on unpaid child support. That would be not be a part of my plan. By the way, non-custodial parents that cannot pay their child support can go to child support enforcement and have the amount of their payment changed today. I know several fathers that have done this.
I would give the non-custodial parent a three month time frame to either pay or show they cannot before summoning them to court for non-payment. If at that time they do not start making payments and they are shown to have the ability to they should spend time in county lock up according to what the judge deems correct.
I wonder why non of our congressmen have a more balanced approch to child support.
Wage Slaves, House Wife as Occupation and the Eternal Greatfulness Doctrine
This video gets the Stinkeye.
How can I sum up this video? Lets see.
Feminism makes women divorce their husbands— check
There was some good old age where no women worked outside the home—check
Why would women want to leave the wonderful super easy task of just cuddling the kiddos all day and become a WAGE SLAVE—check
Excuse me while I vomit….
Okay, I’m back. Of the older women in my family exactly zero have been a housewife. Could assholes like this at least try to frame their argument in a way that does not erase working class people? Nah, that would take too much logic.
Back in the bad old days sometimes even the children had to work. Also, I’m real sick of the idea that women simply divorce because they can or on a whim. There are many different reasons someone files for divorce.
There are many issues with wife as occupation. First and foremost in my mind is the issue of pay. The typical response to that is her pay is room, board and clothing. The reason I hated when I stayed at home was not having my own money to spend as I pleased.
Having to ask for money like a child and explain why I wanted it was very degrading. The inability to buy so much as a damn fifty cent pack of gum without someone eles’s say so is about as degraded to a child as an adult can get. That was enough for me to never want to be a stay at home mom again. With another employer, I work, recived my pay and spent it as I pleased. I got time away from my job, I recieved set hours and breaks.
Staying at home, if my spouse did not want to keep the kids to allow me to pursue some other leisure activity I wanted; I did not get a break. Which in my case was very rarely. I couldn’t do so much as shower without a child banging on the door, yelling, “Mommy,mommy, mommy, mommy,mommy!” That sucks.
Meanwhile, did he just come straight home every day from work. Nope. If he wanted to visit a friend, play basketball, go have a beer, he did those things. I love my children, dearly. Time with kids can have good and bad sides.
Kids can laugh with you, give hugs and kisses and are awesome. They can also poop everywhere, pee everywhere, vomit on you, have tantrums, hit you, bite you(try having your nipple almost ripped off trying to breastfeed a baby.) and make for a very bad day.
Parents need a break from that to rejuvenate. Stay at home mothers often don’t get those needed breaks. Telling them they get a break when the kids are asleep is not sufficient. That is cruel.
My other big problem with the wife as occupation model is what I call the Eternal Gratefulness doctrine. This is the belief that a housewife should be soooo grateful that her husband pays the bills, everything she does is to show her gratefulness.
This leads to husbands taking their wives for granted because she already has a debt to pay for him paying the bills. What is just doing her job. If you’re just doing your job, thanks or reciprocal appreciation is required. Paying the bill is the wife’s appreciation shown.
Wage slave, indeed.
Liebster Award
Shut the front door! I am so utterly stunned right now. I was nominated for the Liebster Award. Apparently this award is for new bloggers with less than 200 followers. Yeah, that about sums me up. First of all I'd like to thank Debb at http://sunshinefactor.wordpress.com for this extremely unexpected honor. I hope I get this right because I'm still unsure of what I'm doing, but here goes nothing.
Lala's World Blog http://lalasworldblog.wordpress.com/
Nominiated me for the Libster Award. I am honored because I admire Lala' World blog, it's awesome.
The award is for new bloggers with less than 200 followers. As part of this I list 11 things about myself and answer 11 questions the person that nominated me asked. As well as nominate up to 11 bloggers myself.
I'll just answer the questions lala's World blog did:
1.What is your favorite book?
This is real tough for me I really loved Through the Eyes of the Dragon by Stephen King but also have a great love for The Color Purple by Alice Walker.
2.If you could do anything you wanted, without regard to money or time, then what would you do?
Since money would be no problem, I could spend the time I would have working helping others.
3.Chocolate, vanilla, or strawberry?
Strawberry on the bottom, vanilla in the middle, and chocolate on top. Then the whipped cream and the cherry. ;-D
4.Do you have any pets?
No, I have a hard enough time affording feeding my kids, not to mention the messes.
5.What’s the most outrageous thing you’ve ever done?
Accidentally set a bush on fire while playing with matches as a kid.
6.What is something no one else, or very few people, know about you?
I have the song, You Belong with Me by Taylor Swift on my mp3 player.
7.What is the name of your best friend and how long have you been friends?
I won't mention her name but we have been friends since 1990.
9.What was your least favorite subject in school?
P.E.
10.Who is your celebrity crush?
Usher
11.What is your favorite food?
Orange Chicken
Some things about me:
1.If I'm watching TV or movies, I prefer comedies. Drama and action are ok but life is serious enough as it is. I like to laugh.
2.I don't have time to read as much as I'd like to. My list of to read books has been neglected lately. I do add to it occasionally.
3. I can have a great day in my house alone the whole day. As I have a husband and 6 kids, quiet is a rare treat for me.
4. My favorite shows I will make sure to watch, even if online are: The Daily Show, The Colbert Report, The Real Housewives of Atlanta.
5.My favorite fast food is Pizza Fries from a place called Egee's in Arizona where I grew up.
6. Three things I have wanted to learn and have not yet are: Playing piano, Playing guitar and sewing.
7.I was born in the summertime and really do not like being cold. Summer is my favorite time of year.
8. I did not learn how to swim until I was 13 years old. I was afraid of drowning from age 5 when I almost drowned in a swimming pool.
9.I wish I had better fashion sense. All my friends and family tell me I dress quite plainly. I'm getting better.
10. I have been with my husband for 19 years. It still a pleasant suprise that we have been able to work through so many trials and stay together so long. I hope we can do this for life. I love him so much.
11.Chocolate is my kryptonite.
I nominate:
Christ! Xmas
http://christxmas.wordpress.com/
loudblkgirl
http://loudblkgirl.wordpress.com/2012/02/
The Female Voter
http://thefemalevoter.org/2012/07/
Questions for Women
http://questionsforwomen.org/
Framestoframe
http://framestoframe.wordpress.com/
The Key to a Great Society, Limiting the Freedom of Women
It seriously depresses me as a woman when I hear conservative talking points. The number 1 point on the agenda is “The Family”. I have no problem with encouraging happy families. The problem comes in with what they would like to do about it and limiting the options of people that do not want what fits into their traditional family mold. That and it seems to always have to do with punishing women that don’t do what they want. Their solution to the number of out of wedlock births is to make it harder for women who already have children. Otherwise they would be for making contraception affordable. They would rather have women and children suffering in poverty to scare other women into towing the line. They never want to scare men though. An equally horrible position would be to force men to live in poverty or marry the mother of their children. No support for that. Even though child support enforcement lowers out of wedlock birth rates. Nope, have to punish those evil sluts or risk civilization.
STINKEYE!
She’s a Bitch
I just love this song by Missy Elliot! Apple of my eye!
Republican Tampons
APPLE, APPLE APPLE OF MY EYE HILARIOUS!
