Wage Slaves, House Wife as Occupation and the Eternal Greatfulness Doctrine

This video gets the Stinkeye.

How can I sum up this video? Lets see.

Feminism makes women divorce their husbands— check

There was some good old age where no women worked outside the home—check

Why would women want to leave the wonderful super easy task of just cuddling the kiddos all day and become a WAGE SLAVE—check

Excuse me while I vomit….

Okay, I’m back. Of the older women in my family exactly zero have been a housewife. Could assholes like this at least try to frame their argument in a way that does not erase working class people? Nah, that would take too much logic.

Back in the bad old days sometimes even the children had to work. Also, I’m real sick of the idea that women simply divorce because they can or on a whim. There are many different reasons someone files for divorce.

There are many issues with wife as occupation. First and foremost in my mind is the issue of pay. The typical response to that is her pay is room, board and clothing. The reason I hated when I stayed at home was not having my own money to spend as I pleased.

Having to ask for money like a child and explain why I wanted it was very degrading. The inability to buy so much as a damn fifty cent pack of gum without someone eles’s say so is about as degraded to a child as an adult can get. That was enough for me to never want to be a stay at home mom again. With another employer, I work, recived my pay and spent it as I pleased. I got time away from my job, I recieved set hours and breaks.

Staying at home, if my spouse did not want to keep the kids to allow me to pursue some other leisure activity I wanted; I did not get a break. Which in my case was very rarely. I couldn’t do so much as shower without a child banging on the door, yelling, “Mommy,mommy, mommy, mommy,mommy!” That sucks.

Meanwhile, did he just come straight home every day from work. Nope. If he wanted to visit a friend, play basketball, go have a beer, he did those things. I love my children, dearly. Time with kids can have good and bad sides.

Kids can laugh with you, give hugs and kisses and are awesome. They can also poop everywhere, pee everywhere, vomit on you, have tantrums, hit you, bite you(try having your nipple almost ripped off trying to breastfeed a baby.) and make for a very bad day.

Parents need a break from that to rejuvenate. Stay at home mothers often don’t get those needed breaks. Telling them they get a break when the kids are asleep is not sufficient. That is cruel.

My other big problem with the wife as occupation model is what I call the Eternal Gratefulness doctrine. This is the belief that a housewife should be soooo grateful that her husband pays the bills, everything she does is to show her gratefulness.

This leads to husbands taking their wives for granted because she already has a debt to pay for him paying the bills. What is just doing her job. If you’re just doing your job, thanks or reciprocal appreciation is required. Paying the bill is the wife’s appreciation shown.

Wage slave, indeed.

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I admire Oprah keeping her poise in the face of so many haters. I cannot stand Oprah haters. The basic reason is they hate her over untruths. If you hate celebrities and their self absorbed lives, I can get that.Usually, though, when I have had a conversation with people that hate Oprah, their reasons are, she hates black men, hates men in general or some variation of that claim.

I’m not an unreasonable person, I absolutely reconsider my ideas when confronted with proof. In Oprah’s case, I looked from some proof. I used to watch her show when I was younger, I recall no man hating from Oprah. I went through all the online videos of her show I could find and found nothing to cause concern. So she funded a leadership school for girls.

She has also helped fund many other schools that were not just for girls. I suspect the real issue is not something she has specifically said or done but a woman that seems to have a fulfilling life without the bulk of that fulfillment being totally focused on the man in her life. There are times it hurts me to think that if a black woman cured cancer she would be hated by black men if she dared be successful of her own accord.

Why can’t a sister get the least credit for something other than what she may do for a man or children? A woman’s success outside of that does not equal a man’s failure at anything. There is nothing wrong with any woman if she has extra aspirations other than the traditional gender role box they are trying to stuff us in.

Opah making a hater look stupid—-APPLE OF MY EYE ALL DAY! The hater, of course, gets the stink eye.

Rooting for Tyler

I saw a trailer for an action movie Tyler Perry is in. I’m aware Tyler is on some list of supposed black men hating/black women stereotyping hated negro list that seems to only include him and Oprah.(and occasionally any black male actor that dresses in drag) The problem is I’m starting to become of the opinion that this type of attitude limits the type oftopics of movies black people can make or be in.

     If any negative character role a black person is in is precieved to reflect on all black people negatively there is gonna be so limited a scope as to limit movies with blacks in them to biopics. And apparently biopics of black men cannot show anything about the black women in their lives. (Tuskeegee airmen) This is one load of BS I thing black people need to get over and damn right quick.

The fact of the matter is you could make every single damn black character in every movie from now on a super intelligent geinus of some sort and that’s not going to change one bit the minds of racist motherfuckers out in the world. Why is it movies with other races of people can just tell compelling, action filled or funny stories without them getting into a bitch-fit on how such and such a character is making their race look bad.

I know black people can tell the difference between fiction and reality…I’m starting to wonder. Well I for one am not going to be a part of this BS. I’m going to call it out for what it is whenever I encounter it. A turd. I give the stink eye to these numbskulls on this hot load of BS.